hugs

I need a hug sometimes. Maybe you do too.

Because of that, one of the things I’m known for as a pastor is hugging people on Sunday mornings as they leave. I don’t hug those who don’t want to, of course, and pride myself on respecting people’s personal space, but regulars know that if they need one I’ve got one waiting for them.

Just hold out your arms and I’m your guy.

I wasn’t a huggy kind of guy until my first part-time ministry. The more I got to know folks and found out how difficult life was for them, the more hugs made sense. And when I considered some of the elderly widows in the congregation, it just seemed like the right thing to do.

And so, pretty much over night, I began hugging people. Mostly women, as you might imagine, although if a guy wants one that’s cool. Of course, they get a “man-hug,” not a “woman-hug.” There’s a difference, you know.

I don’t want to be overly dramatic, but I’m convinced people need the touch of another person on a regular basis. That’s especially true in our fast-paced, Facebook and texting culture. There doesn’t seem to be time for face-to-face conversations or human interaction anymore. And there are some desperately lonely people out there, even in the church.

Because of that, here’s your assignment: Hug somebody today (Your spouse or girl/boy friend don’t count.).

Two words of caution, however: First, we’re talking (of course) about a holy hug, not a passionate one. The purpose of these hugs is to encourage and support people, not an expression of lust. I know it may seem obvious, but I’d be remiss if I didn’t point it out.

Second, be cautious and use common sense who you hug and when you hug. Since the person and any observers may misinterpret what’s happening, don’t do anything foolish or obviously inappropriate. And always—always—use extreme caution when hugging someone of the opposite sex. In fact, if you have any doubts at all, then don’t do it. Just don’t.

All that said, who’s it going to be? Somebody at school? At work? A neighbor? A family member?

Who do you know that needs encouragement? Who do you know that’s depressed? Who is having a tough time of it?

“Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another-and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”1

One of the best ways to encourage each other is a well-timed and holy hug.

Take my word for it, hugs are good medicine.

1  Hebrews 10:25